my new girlfriend

remember how i said i have a crush on the lady on miami ink?
here she is, here name is kat von d:



isn't she so pretty
and she can tattoo for reals yall

does it get cuter than this?

i think not:



thats daryl mcdaniels of run dmc kickin it live one time with some teletubbies.

loves it.

my newest obsession...

miami ink
on TLC
i can not get enough of it
i just spent HOURS watching it
and now it is after 1am and i am tired
i have a wee bit of a crush on kat von d
and would love to get a tattoo from her or chris carver
ok must sleep now

dear diary

i have had a busy past few days, so lets get to it.

last saturday, higgs and her sweetie bobby came over to love on the kitties before we proceeded to Rice to get a delicious and nutritious dinner. they went for the special where you pay like $25 and then eat all these different things. jes and i went for the mexican chicken soup (good but i could have done without the corn), arepas- divine as always, and the vegetable dumpling things (i really only like the sauce you dip them in). we all shared some not so salty edamame up front and i partook in a divine cup of hot spicy ginger tea. it burns going down and i love it.

after dinner we headed over to this great bar in fort green called moe's. jes and i had said we wanted to go and figured higgs and bobby would like to hang for a little bit longer, but not too long b/c higgs had a marathon on sunday morning. so we walked on over and when we walked in i saw ali and i thought "oh that is so weird b/c we were maybe going to try and get a drink with ali after this, but look she is here now." then i looked across from ali and saw beth, one of jes's school mates and i thought "oh how curious they are both coincidentally here, i guess they saw each other and decided to sit near each other." then i looked to my left and saw botacelli and her boyfriend steve and i was like "wait a minute, there is something going on here." that is when higgs was like "surprise dr. donna, congrats on finishing your disseration" and then i looked around and in fact i knew everyone in the front of the bar, b/c they were there for a surprise gathering for me. isn't that silly? i felt very stupid at first and then i was like "how did you keep this from me" and jes was like "it was not easy, i almost told you a million times" i guess she, higgs and ali put their big brains together and made it work. stinkers.

so it was this amazing time. i got to see so many folks i hadn't seen and some i do see but i got to see them MORE. first i chatted with botacelli and steve about their lives and work and such. then i talked to the bls crew: erica and her sweetie, beth and linda. then i chatted with my suppa club ladies: ali, glennda and kim, then i busted chats with the folks by the jukebox: pony, thibot, darelle, tara, christian and charlie. then in came max (wolverine, not max bike- he was sick, so was liz) and niki and julie and their straight roommate who apparently had the hots for jes. i felt so loved and i got all these great presents and people kept buying me drinks. needless to say i was hungover the next morning from three vodka tonics with lime. nothing a lot of water and a little tylenol couldn't fix.

jes had to work all day on sunday so i did some work here in the morning and then ali came over so we could walk down to key food to buy an ice cream cake for the l word finale get together at kim and glennda's. we went for a bunny cake. i said it was a passover bunny so people who don't celebrate easter didn't feel left out. on the way home, ali and i picked up a slice at joe's then ate it when we got home. she helped me pack up a few more boxes too, which was great. the last few days ali has had this really bad heart burn, so while we were eating, i got out my digestive wellness book and we read up on how to deal with it. she found that they suggested this "test" with apple cider vinegar. basically you do a shot of apple cider vinegar and if it burns you have enough or too much acid in your stomach, if it doesn't you may have too little acid. neither of us felt a burn so we think we may have low acid bellies. it tasted pretty gross and i think ali will never do it again. i laughed at her grimace.

the lword party was divine. lovely ladies, great food and horrible lesbian drama (on the tv). i was really hoping they would kill off jenny and tina in a car wreck or something but they didn't. though i did appreciate how things ended with jenny at least. yesterday i traveled into the city to look at some books in the nyu library. i can't check books out so i have to just look at them and then xerox what i need. the staff was really less than helpful, but at least i got a start on identifying good readings for this queer theory course i might be teaching. after that i went to a coffee shop (SNice- i love it) and read what i had xeroxed, then i met jes at curly's for a delish avocado melt and some curly fries. we met christian at nowhere (the gay bar) next door and at first he seemed a bit tired or down in the dumps. even a few games of erotic photo hunt didn't bring him up. then we saw some bar patrons playing the new playstation or nintendo Wii, the video game with the wands. we asked if we could play and they said yes. for the next few hours we played baseball, golf, bowling and tennis. we tried to do boxing but you needed some other attachment. it was so much fucking fun. what was totally hilarious was watching jes and christian play with the wand in one hand and a beer in the other. my favorite (i think) was tennis or maybe baseball b/c those were the ones i was best at. seriously the shit is addictive and i even *for one moment* considered getting one. then i reminded myself that paying off student loans is a smarter way to use my money.

so its a gorgeous warm and sunny day today. i have some work here to do and then i am heading out into the neighborhood to run errands: mail stuff, grocery shop, pick up a few other things and then tonight i think we are going to pack some more and watch babel. jes finished watching fast food nation last night. that is a seriously intense movie. i really liked it.

ok happy tuesday.

where you been?

just kidding, as per usual, its me that has been remiss. i have to say though, i have a pretty good reason. see what i didn't tell you, dear reader, in my last post and the post before that is that i was gearing up to get surgery. nothing major yall, don't worry.

so when i went to turn in my dissertation last month, i also made a visit to the girl doctor. i have been having some spotting during ovulation (for like a year) and after SEVERAL of my friends said "you should get that checked out" i did. so long story short, mr. doctor found what he thought was an ovarian cyst during a routine ultrasound. i was a little "wha???" but tried to keep it in check. from there he sent me to get a mac daddy ultrasound and from that he found that i not only had a cyst i ALSO had two polyps on my uterus (i mean b/c really one thing isn't enough). to take care of it all at once, he suggested i come in for some outpatient surgery.

after much planning, we worked it out so that i could to atlanta to get the surgery during the same time jes was going for spring break and for summer internship interviews. my sister also agreed to come for a few days before jes could get there and so that they could kind of tag team during my recovery. i have never had surgery really (i did have tubes put in my ears when i was four but i don't think that counts...) so i have to say i was pretty apprehensive about it. what i was most worried about was going under. i do not like the idea of not knowing what is going on when i am very vulnerable (naked, someone up in my parts, etc). luckily my doctor told me i could take a happy pill the morning of surgery so once i took that, i really relaxed and just let them do their thing.

about twelve seconds after the anesthesiologist gave me the "happy drugs" (her term not mine) i was OUT. i think i may have woke up for one second when we got to the operating room b/c i remember seeing the big lights. after the surgery this resident came and talked to me, the nurses took great care of me, and thirty minutes later, i was out the door. and by out the door, i mean wheeled out in a wheelchair after chatting with another patient about the color purple on broadway-random. i got a little queasy from the drive home but was able to hold it together enough to pass the fuck out for several hours in the bed. for the next day or two, kath and jes took good care of me and i pretty much just laid in the bed with breaks for the bathroom. because my belly hurt from the laproscopic surgery i kind of wobbled to the bathroom which jes thought was HILARIOUS. while i felt like someone had punched me right in the bellybutton (and i have bruises to further support this theory), the hardest part for me was the gas that they fill your belly with during the hysteroscopy (what they did to remove the polyps). they basically blow your belly up so its easier to see (i think that is why they do it). either way i felt like i was ABOUT six months pregnant and my belly hurt. the worst was saturday night. there i was, watching "stranger than fiction" (a really good movie by the way) trying not to laugh b/c it hurt (did i mention will ferrell is in the movie- so that was hard to do). i was standing up holding on to the back of chair rocking back and forth. again, jes found this HILARIOUS.

so it has been a little over a week since i got the surgery and i am feeling pretty much back to normal. i am still a little bit achy and not too keen on heavy lifting just yet, but other than that, i am golden. what the surgery taught us is this:

1. the cyst WAS NOT an ovarian cyst, that is, it was not attached to the ovary (which is good). it was a paratubal cyst just hanging out NEAR my right ovary. that also means that i have probably had this cyst for my whole life. how crazy is that? what is also crazy is that the cyst was bigger than they thought (originally it was measured at 7cm) and it was TOTALLY pushing my uterus out of the way. like the cyst was way bigger than my uterus. you would think i would have felt this. not so much.

2. after doing the polyp removal it also became clear that i have a mild case of endometriosis. you'd a thought that in twenty years of menstruating i would have known that too. again, not so much.

if these in depth details about my reproductive organs are not enough for you and you want to see pictures, send me an email and i will send them to you. yeah, that's right, i asked him to make a copy of the pictures for me. i mean how often do you get to see pictures of the inside of your body? not often. originally i was going to post them here, but then i thought maybe they are too gory and i don't want folks to get sick reading my blog.

on a happier note: while in atlanta jes and i got to see our friend dawn for coffee one afternoon AND we got to eat at el myr with kim and sarah one evening in celebration of sarah's birthday. her actual birthday was on friday. Happy Birthday Sarah!

ok enough from me. happy sunday yall.

not much going on here

i feel bad because i haven't posted in a while, but frankly, i don't have much to report. surely something has been going on in my life, let me think....

well, the other day jes and i went into the city to register for a bone marrow drive. all they did was have us swab the insides of our cheeks. not too exciting. on the way there, jes saw molly shannon jogging. i missed her. and earlier in the week, i saw john cameron mitchell get off the f train right near the movie theater. i thought he was a cute short haired lesbian with high heeled blue boots. instead he was a cute short haired gay man with high heeled boots.

this past weekend we went to a birthday party for glennda. it was fun. she had this real fancy spread with lots of cheese and OLIVES! we brought the fixins for these champagne drinks, they weren't so good, but we also made pears with honey and walnuts and those were delish, so we redeemed ourselves. we made a few new friends at the party: ruben, joaquin (not sure on the spelling there) and c.j. so not only did i make THREE new friends, they were all MEN. go figure. we talked about madonna and justin timberlake and perezhilton.com. why yes, they were gay men, how'd you guess?

jes started working at the circulation desk at her school library. that is kind of hot. she and i have been diligently working on applications: job apps for me and internship apps for her. we are both kind of tired of the process already. too bad. i am officially unemployed. my job ended the last day of february. still not entirely sure what i am going to do with my life. trying to not let it freak me out too much.

my friend higgins came over on sunday and i made a version of chicken picatta that we paired with a nice spinach salad. for dessert we had some dark chocolate with raspberry pieces in it and higgs and jes also had some gross milk chocolate i don't care for.

it was freezing cold today in brooklyn even though it looked like it was a sunny warm day, it wasn't. i left the house ONCE to get some juice and a lottery ticket for tonight's drawing. oh how i hope we win the $370 million. that would be so nice.

ok yall. that is all i gots to say for now. i hope your week is going well.
take care.